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The Ways Gay Men Are More Masculine Than They Realize

Posted March 1, We expend considerable energy hiding gay genuine selves from everyone around us—including those who care about us and, too often and most insidiously, from ourselves. We project an image we believe will let us fit in with those whose approval we seek. So many gay men learn we are different from other boys by having the fact pointed out and ridiculed by bullies during our young, characteristic impressionable, years.

Our young peers become pint-size enforcers of the Boy Code—using shame and even violence to enforce conformity to the absurd notion that every gay is heterosexual and expresses his maleness only within a limited, permitted range of emotions and behaviors. These are the things a boy needs most to hear.

What a man most needs to hear—from others, but most importantly from himself, in his own mind—is that guy is okay just as he is. The late Harry Hay often called "the father of the modern gay movement," founded the Mattachine Society in Los Angeles in the fall of for gay men to gather and ponder the questions Hay had long been asking: Who are gay people?

Where do gay people come from? Where have gays been throughout history? Hay believed that gay people had something special to teach nongay people about human life, and for that reason should be nurtured, rather than reviled, by society. Hay believed that gay men are different from heterosexuals and that those differences go much deeper than mere sexual attraction to other men.

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